When I was younger, I used to think that friends were for life, I used to believe that the friendships you made during primary school and/or secondary school were the ones who would be by your side for all the big milestones.
Sometimes, that’s true. Sometimes, the friendships you make are meant to last forever and other times friendships are just meant for that period of your life. I have had so many different friendships over the last few years and it’s only recently I have come to realise that some of them weren’t meant to be, that sometimes the person who were your friends then aren’t the same people. We all grow psychologically at different rates, the person who you were friends with in high school may not be the same person now.
Even though some friendships don’t last, I believe that everyone who comes into your life has moulded the person you are today. When we think about past friendships, we shouldn’t think of the bad times, the moments which may have ended those friendship, instead we should think about the positives. Understanding the friendship, the bond you had with that person and how they effected your life, will not only help you grow but will make you more aware of what kind of people you need in your life.
Over the last few years, there has definitely been people in my life that I have lost contact with and some others that I just don’t see myself being close with anymore. But I don’t regret having any of them in my life, I am so grateful to all of them for helping me grow as a person and even though I may not talk to some of them anymore I will always cherish the memories we made together. Like I said before, people come and go out of your life but you should never regret those moments because no matter if they were bad or good, you know that the people who stuck around are the ones that really cherished your friendship and those who left were friendships that weren’t meant to last.
I truly feel so lucky to say that the friends I have in my life, even if I only talk to them every now and again, are the ones that I truly feel like will be there for all the big milestones in my life. I am so grateful to all the wonderful people in my life who have always being there for me, for putting up with my craziness and just being the incredible people, I know they are. Thank you for supporting me with my blog journey and for putting up with all my stress moments, but most of all thank you for always making me smile.
Social media these days allows us to connect to so many more people around the world who have similar interests and views as ourselves. In fact, so many people have social media friends, people they’ve bonded with through Instagram, Twitter or even Facebook. For me, it’s not one person in particular, it’s actually a community of people. The Insecure Girl’s Club (@theinsecuresgirlsclub) is honestly a wonderful supportive community of women from around the world who talk about their up’s and down’s and create a safe space for other women, to feel as if they can voice their views without feeling judged. It’s important to understand that sometimes people feel more comfortable talking about things that affect them most with strangers than the people in their lives, and so having a community of friends that are there to listen is a wonderful thing. Go check out The Insecure Girl’s Club right now, you won’t regret it. I also want to say thank you to Liv (@livpurvis) for creating such a wonderful space for women.
It felt really nice to talk about something so close to home and I hope this post was helpful or at least something you could relate to. I would love to hear about the amazing people in your life who make you smile and what other topics you would like me to talk about in the future. I want to leave you guys with this quote by Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey:
“There is nothing I wouldn’t do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves; it is not my nature.”
Love Sharuni xx