Sorry for the lack of blog post last week, it was a pretty busy week and sadly I didn’t get a chance to write my usual weekly post. But I’m back and so ready to dive back in.
‘People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you’ – @subliming.jpg
This week’s post is about something I have wanted to talk about for a while, and I have touched upon before in past blog posts. The Insecure Girls Club is a Instagram page run by Olivia Purvis (@livpurvis) who is a London Blogger, and not only has a wonderful taste in music, fashion and flowers (BASICALLY EVERYTHING I LOVE) but she has always been an amazing role model (to me and many other women out there) as well as constantly spreading the message of empowering ourselves and the women around us.
To be soft is to be powerful – Rupi Kaur (@rupikaur_)
The Insecure Girls Club is a space for women to embrace their vulnerabilities and empower themselves as well as the women in their lives, ‘through wearing their insecurities on their sleeves’. The page is about not feeling bad, guilty or alone in our insecurities, it’s about feeling comfortable and safe in a community where you can share without feeling ashamed and help give a voice to those who are too scared to speak out. It’s about creating a community for girls to feel powerful, happy and showing them that they are not alone in the way they feel and that it is ok to not look a certain way, act a certain way or feel a certain way.
‘I will not compare myself to a stranger on Instagram’ – Emily Coxhead (@emilycoxhead)
One of the reasons I love this page is because it highlights the importance of individuality and not comparing yourself to those on social media, because life is not always as perfect as it seems. Individuality is something we forget to embrace, being your unique, quirky brilliant self is something you should never hide or be ashamed of because it makes you, you. We need to help empower women and make them feel beautiful in their own skin. We also have to make sure we don’t get so consumed by Instagram and have such unrealistic (or extreme) expectations for what we want our lives to be like, because sometimes it’s more important to live in the moment and treasure what you have, instead of constantly being in a place where you are always wanting more.
Confidence is not ‘they will like me’ confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’ – @blindsaay
Throughout your life there will people who come and go, some of them will help you, make you feel confident, happy and loved who you are inside and out. Then there are some people who will make you insecure, who sometimes unknowingly make you feel less confident and that’s not ok. Honestly, I know how that feels, I know how it feels to feel uncomfortable in your own skin because of the way other people talk to you or act around you, how they make you feel so alienated that you don’t feel safe or happy in that environment. And I have learnt that sometimes it is important to not let those people have that control over you. To let them go because they are only bringing negativity into your life and instead of supporting you and guiding you, they are knocking you down.
On anxiety: the mind can be imaginative, and I am sorry for all of the times this has been a frightening and terrible thing, so I hope that in the wild of all these thoughts you can take the time to breathe. Just breathe. Merely breathe. Then find your way into the light. Find peace in knowing that you do not have to sort through everything tonight – Morgan Harper Nichols (@morganharpernichols)
There are so many things that happen in our lives that have such a impact, big or small, on our lives and our personalities. The people we surround ourselves with in real life and social media, the things we read and even the music we listen to. Surrounding ourselves with things that make us smile, make us more confident in our own skin and shine more positivity into our lives is one of the best things we can try and do to help fight those anxieties, insecurities and negative thoughts.
In a world where you can be anything. Be kind – @theinsecuregirlsclub
Having a community of women, from all backgrounds, all ages and with different experiences will help make those harder days a bit more bearable. Knowing you have this community of strong minded, beautiful and inspirational women there to help you get through those moments is something you will treasure. It’s a wonderful thing to know that there are social media pages out there that have a soul purpose to support, empower and inspire other women.
Love Sharuni xx
//15th November 2018//